I sat my boys down when they were 7 and 8. I asked them if they knew what "adoption" meant.
They said yes, "when you pick a baby or kid to be yours because you want to love them forever".
I thought that was beautiful. So I said..."one of you is adopted"- before I finished geting the words out my older son pointed at the younger and said, "It's him."
The young one jumped with glee shouting, "Is it me? Is it me?" He was so excited that we had chosen him. (and I am too)!
We adopted him at birth and big brother is 11 months older!
Sometimes we find out things aren't exactly as we thought, sometimes it's even better! It is all in how you want to frame the new information.
Life's a Beach:
Life's a Beach: I can feel the cool sand beneath my feet, or get buried beneath it. I can bask in the warmth of the sun, or get burned. I can swim against the tide or ride the waves. The beach is just the beach...I have the job of creating my experience of it! Such are the stages of life.
Contact information for Irene Teesdale is located at the bottom of this page.
Contact information for Irene Teesdale is located at the bottom of this page.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Who is Caring for the Caregiver?
· Two-thirds of the more than 4 million working family caregivers caring for elderly spent 40+ hours per week caring for a family member, and 1.6 million spent 20-40 hours a week (U.S. Dept. of Labor, 1998).
· Nearly 3/4 of the caregivers are woman and 41% have one or more children under age18 living in the home (DHHS, 2007; MetLife, 1997, p9).
· In 2010 about 54% of all workers will become caregivers at a projected cost of $11.4 billion per year in lost production (MetLife, 1997, pp7&33).
· The cost in lost wages is estimated at an average of $109 per day, and has an estimated economic value of $196 billion for services rendered, and a loss of as much as $3 trillion in caregivers’ pensions and Social Security benefits (Arno, Levine, & Memmott, 1999; MetLife, 2011; Stucki, & Mulver, 2000).
· 36% of caregivers are vulnerable and have difficulty providing care. Up to 27% report physical difficulties, and their mental health is compromised as well (MetLife, 2011; Navaie-Waliser, et al. 2002).
· The dependence on informal caregivers can form a stressful and potentially unsafe environment for both the caregiver and the care receiver (Navaie-Waliser, et al. 2002; Reinhard, et al., 2008).
With 43.5 million informal caregivers providing s services valued at $450 billion in 2009, losing $3 trillion in wages and related benefits, and up to 50% of caregivers meeting the criteria for major clinical depression, better caregiver support systems must be put into place. A specific plan needs to be developed for caregivers that partners with health and social service administrations across state departments, healthcare systems, community-based service organizations, work and family organizations, advocates, research facilities, and consumers to ascertain challenges, opportunities and system-changing plans with yearly evaluations to incorporate family caregivers within systems of care.
Monday, January 23, 2012
Think things through...
A few years ago my neighbor's little girl (age 5) had a crush on both of my sons (then ages 5 and 6). One day she informed her mother that she loved them and was making plans on marrying both of them! Her mother told her that she couldn't do that, because it was against the law. She would have to chose just one. This news made the little girl very sad, and ran off her to her room in tears. After some time had passed and she had given the situation some thought she came back to her mother- beaming with joy she proclaimed, "Fine then- I will marry Chandler!"
"That's nice." her mother said with a grin.
"... Yup! ...and Cameron can be my boyfriend!"
When you want something the only thing limiting you are the options you don't consider!
Monday, January 16, 2012
Did you know that HUGGING is vital to your health?
Psychologist Karen Grewen conducted a study at the School of Medicine at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill.
Research studies have shown that the blood pressure levels in people deprived of contact with their loved ones soared. Hugging releases oxytocin in the brain and that daily dose of oxytocin-laced hugging protects us from heart disease.
When the researchers tested the levels of oxytocin after a hug, both men and women showed an increase. However, the researchers also discovered that all of the women had reduced levels of cortisol following the hug. Cortisol is another hormone produced by the adrenal glands that is part of the body’s response to stress. The fact that the women participants’ cortisol levels were significantly lower means that females are especially responsive to the calming effects of a hug-- proving that a hug a day can go a long way to keeping a woman you love heart healthy.
So don’t wait another minute, give your loved a hug… and by all means, make it a daily practice!
Research studies have shown that the blood pressure levels in people deprived of contact with their loved ones soared. Hugging releases oxytocin in the brain and that daily dose of oxytocin-laced hugging protects us from heart disease.
When the researchers tested the levels of oxytocin after a hug, both men and women showed an increase. However, the researchers also discovered that all of the women had reduced levels of cortisol following the hug. Cortisol is another hormone produced by the adrenal glands that is part of the body’s response to stress. The fact that the women participants’ cortisol levels were significantly lower means that females are especially responsive to the calming effects of a hug-- proving that a hug a day can go a long way to keeping a woman you love heart healthy.
So don’t wait another minute, give your loved a hug… and by all means, make it a daily practice!
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